Wednesday, 21 August 2019

Have you ever had a bad day?


Have you ever had a bad day & wanted to blame someone for your day? I remember many years ago slamming down the phone & swearing very loudly & a colleague asking “Have you stopped doing Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP)?”
They asked because since I’d started my journey of how my mind works I’d started to stand in others shoes, & take responsibility for my reactions. I realised how I saw the world was only one view. In the words of a stakeholder I’d become “easier to deal with”. I’d become more conscious of the impact my thinking was having on any situation & how I was feeling. On bad days when we don’t understand how others think, & everything gets on top of us it’s easy; to not want to take the time to understand our own contribution to the situation; to have a day off from personal responsibility; to blame someone else; & to slam the phone down & swear. Ultimately though, our mind is with us 24/7 365, & a conscious awareness of the impact it’s having on the outcomes we’re getting is actually the quickest way to finding a solution or resolve a frustration. It’s such a pity that’s also true on a bad day because slamming phones can certainly make us feel better - momentarily. How can you take back responsibility for the outcome you’re getting?

The 5 day Procurement Mindset Challenge starting on the 9th September will allow us to become more conscious about the mindset we're choosing in any moment, and to explore the alternate choices we have. See link to join up.



Tuesday, 20 August 2019

I can feel the frustration


  • I can feel the frustration.
  • I can feel me digging in my heels.
  • I can me whispering “over my dead body”.
  • I can sense the dogged resistance to them getting their own way.
  • I will not give up.
  • They will not win.
I wonder if this ever how procurement stakeholders feel about us?

I wonder if this is ever how suppliers feel about us?

The content & details of the non work situation driving this behaviour in me is immaterial – even if I would love to gossip, moan & justify why I’m right & they’re wrong.

That’s going to get me nowhere.

If I step back, I can certainly see the behaviours that got us here:
  • Changes imposed on another party with no consultation.
  • An objection procedure that relies on emails/letters & no human contact.
  • Facts & data ignored if it supports a different outcome or amended outcome.
  • Ignoring other people's opinions because we've labeled them as NIMBYs 
  • Key facts & data misrepresented or omitted at the final presentation.
  • Only one party in attendance when approving the decision.
And
  • Emails written when angry.
  • Emails that stray from the facts & data.
  • Emails that push the other party to defending their position.
  • Not pushing hard enough for a face to face meeting.
  • Not talking to another human being.
Which of the above behaviours may you need to step back from today?

There is another way, and among other things it involves: 
  • Consultation 
  • Communication 
  • Compassion.
Join me for the 5 day Procurement Mindset Challenge on 9th September where alternate mindsets to the ones that led to the mutual frustration and impasse above will be explored.


Monday, 19 August 2019

5 day Procurement Mindset challenge


“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” Aristotle
In the procurement mindset 5 day challenge starting on 9th September we’ll be looking at ways of making a supportive mindset a habit.